I sat on the couch with my only daughter holding her hand with my left and applying a fair amount of pressure with my right hand just below her sternum. The chemo tends to cause localized pain in short bursts for Jada who usually just calls out for someone to put pressure on the area. After the pain had subsided we just sat and talked - with each fluttering moment she would reach up and grab a fist full of hair and hand it to me. How does one respond when put in such a precarious spot? I didn't. I just took the hair, smiled, wrapped my arm around her and kissed her bare head.
Sunday, January 30, 2011
What comfort remains
I sat on the couch with my only daughter holding her hand with my left and applying a fair amount of pressure with my right hand just below her sternum. The chemo tends to cause localized pain in short bursts for Jada who usually just calls out for someone to put pressure on the area. After the pain had subsided we just sat and talked - with each fluttering moment she would reach up and grab a fist full of hair and hand it to me. How does one respond when put in such a precarious spot? I didn't. I just took the hair, smiled, wrapped my arm around her and kissed her bare head.
Thursday, January 27, 2011
Not ideal or is it?
Last Friday we sat in clinic – Jada and I – when a 4yr old boy walked in with no hair. Jada takes one glance and politely whispers in my ear, “daddy, did he have chemo?” Throughout this whole process I have never been an advocate of keeping information from my daughter for her “protection.” This was no time to veer from the already well-beaten path. I looked her square in the eye and said, “he sure did sweetie, and soon your head will look like that because all of your hair will fall out.” Jada wrinkles up her cute little face and says with a sinister little grin, "maybe it'll come back a different color."
That was Friday...last week. A lot has happened since then and now we are in the hours before dawn of Friday this week, the 28th of January. Jada has been oscillating back and forth - most recently in a conversation with Jess she exclaimed, "I will never be beautiful without my hair!" Its hard to know, but for now this will serve as your update (for those update-hungry folks out there). Now... I get to talk about my wife!
I am an idealist at heart. That is precisely why my definition of 'ideal' was initially challenged when Jessica and I originally began a relationship. There are few things less ideal than I was in high school - to save one the horror of a seared image in your mind, here's the skinny: I was 6 ft. tall and skinny as a rail, I parted my hair in the middle (yes, that's right... I said 'parted'), I wore hand me downs, wore braces, hated anything to do with words or speaking, and sat by myself in the cafeteria day after day. Jessica, now she was ideal (and still is). Not many of you know it, but she used to have curly hair (which was beautiful), was a straight A student, phenomenal athlete, outgoing, and a thousand other characteristics. As far as rank goes, there were not leagues that could have depicted the chasm that existed between her and I - only a spectrum in the world's eyes; her on the high end and me opposite.
So, when college finished and Luke & Debbie Porritt fixed us up (THANK YOU GUYS!), I struggled. You know what its like. You have seen the movies where a guy is tongue tied trying to talk to the beautiful woman - try having that feeling every day. So early on - as the picture indicates- Jessica certainly caught my eye because, in my opinion, she was (is) stunning. However, being an idealist puts a strange sort of seat belt on your expectations. Initially, I thought I might get the amount of consideration that a page turn does in a half interesting book. Jessica, however, has never ceased to wrestle my preconceived notions to the ground and challenge them.
Her and I committed to a time of prayer before we began any sort of relationship. It was not long until the both of us, sensing conviction from the Spirit, began a relationship. This was the summer of 2001. We experienced some not so ideal times on two occasions where we had what I shall call "relational hiccups." They were mainly due to my arrogance (having just graduated Bible college I was the personification of 1 Cor. 8:1-3, but praise be to God's grace, I am being changed more into the image of Jesus now). By God's grace we were rid of the hiccups by July 30th 2003 - the night we were engaged. January 2, 2004 we wed. That day was FULL of "ideals."
Fast forward 7 years, celebrate your anniversary the night before your 5 year old goes into major surgery to have a football sized tumor removed, and you may as well tell "ideal" he doesn't even have to dress for the game - because he is getting NO PLAYING TIME.
Or is he. . .
Our conviction is that the goodness and sovereignty of God has never been in question - not since January 2, 2004 or even now. By the time we will have walked through this whole thing, I can promise you this, God WILL USE IT to make our marriage more ideal. Does that mean that Jessica and I have gotten along perfectly, no. Does that mean we have not shaken our fist at God in anger and confusion, no. Does that mean that we never cry and we always must appear as though we have everything together, again an emphatic NO! I have said it before and I will say it again: "faith is what you find when you face what you are facing."
Here is what I am finding about my wife: "Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: 'Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.'" Prov. 31:28-29. Her passion for the Lord drew me. Even now, in anger and/or frustration she is still BEGGING for time alone with Jesus to make sense of it all.
There is no one I would rather walk through this with than you Jessica Marie Rumbold. One day our children will rise and call you blessed because you have clung, with transparency, to the supplier of our hope. It is not a contest it is a destination and our citizenship reveals it (see Philippians 3).
This post is meant to exalt Jesus Christ and the transforming work he has done in OUR relationship. Tell me (by clicking to add a comment), are you being encouraged and transformed by Jesus lately? If so, give all of us a taste with a sentence or two. I'd personally love to hear how God is shaping and changing many of you.
Monday, January 24, 2011
Trust vs. Tears: The Epic Battle and present struggle
We were told after the first inpatient treatment that if Jada ever has a fever over 100.4 she will be admitted. "Sure," we say and tuck that into our - 'that won't ever happen to us' pocket. Which, by the way, is being rapidly depleted these days. Sunday afternoon Jada's body began to feel a little hot and I kept a close eye on things. We began checking her fever - which only climbed. To simplify and save space, her fever spiked over the 100.4 threshold, I called the Dr., we were ordered to admit immediately. Jessica, at this point, had just woke from a nap, comes to the living room and sees my eyes... the story has already been told though no words had been spoken. "What's wrong?" she says. "Well, we need to pack some bags, Jada has to be readmitted tonight because she has a fever." Immediately Jessica begins to cry and Oliver - ever the sensitive man that he is - follows her into the bathroom and says, "it okay momma, it okay."
Saturday, January 22, 2011
Trusting Ultimately / Struggling Trivially
The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases; his mercies never come to an end, they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. 'The LORD is my portion,' says my soul, therefore I will hope in him." - Lamentations 3:19-24 -
We sat in clinic (St. Jude in Peoria) yesterday getting blood work and waiting on the nursing staff. We arrived at 9:30 and were dismissed around 1. Those are just going to be long days no matter how you slice it. Jada and I began to strike up a conversation, the details of which could be classified in the following statement: difference of perspective.
To be sure the LORD has guarded Jessica and I from SO MUCH these 4 weeks that our view of providence (in all its fullness) has expanded. That is until the other day when I went to the mailbox and we began receiving the bills. God has already got the ball rolling here and I seemed quite confident for some time regarding it...but that was before my eyes befell just the first of many bills that made my annual salary look like a pittance. "Okay, health care is expensive, I know, but God's got it under control." That was my perspective and really my heart. I know that ultimately this is my last concern, but now the questions of how had begun. This was the topic of Jada and my discussion while at clinic.
She was looking around the room and said to me... "Dad, are tumors expensive?" "Well, sweetie, actually they are not but the removal of them is for sure." "Hmmmmm" - she says. Then with absolute cuteness she furrows up her brow and says, "how much?" "What do you mean?" "I mean, how much has everything cost so far?" "Well honey, we have only received bills for a few things so I am not really sure." Her brain begins working overtime, complete with the listless glance into space to allow time for calculating. Finally, she says, "I think it had to cost almost 100 cents!"
I was taken back at the difference in perspective. From day one I have had complete trust that financially things will be fine. That is still my stand today - St. Jude is a GREAT organization...but as Chris Tomlin sings, "Our God is greater!" Still, I love how the difference in perspective allows for Jada to have a greater range of faith than her father. In Matt. 18:2-4 Jesus uses children as a benchmark for faith. He desires us the emulate the faith of a child. I believe it is because their range of faith differs so much from that of an adult. Allow one illustration and then I will wrap this up...
Yesterday one of the child life workers was making a necklace for Jada. She holds up smiley faces and frowny faces to put on the necklace - each depicting one day and how she felt that day. When asking Jada how many happy days and how many days did she hurt, Jada replied, "Miss Shelly, they are all happy days because of Jesus." So, while her 100 cent statement nails the "Ultimate" (or final purpose) end of things, her "happy because of Jesus" statement pins down the trivial side of living. An area of struggle for me. Ultimately Jessica and I are comfortable with what is going on and we TRUST God absolutely. Conversely though, I struggle at times with training my children, loving my wife, and being woke up for he 5th time in the night by a 2 year old (that last one is way too specific to be made up by the way).
Faith, then, is not so much what you are facing. It is what you find when you face what you are facing. Have you ever noticed that life for children is nearly always a perpetual discovery? Something is always amazing them. I submit that if you seek for God ultimately, with humility (see Lamentations 3:20), you will be amazed every morning at how he condescends into your trivial. All of this is to provide us with the Good that comes from our "gall" (bitter experiences) as the author of Lamentations puts it.
PREVIEW: In all the craziness surrounding Jada there is lost this picture that we are not defined by Jada nor her illness. We are first and foremost children of the living God. So, for the next three posts I am going to dedicate my writing to the other three people in my life that round out the Rumbold family. First, I will dedicate an entire post to my wife who has strength and beauty I never would have guessed seven years ago existed. Then a post for Oliver (aka. the Goober) which will likely include some story about him and underwear. Finally, a post about Pierce who God has already used to break through the darkness of this time for Jessica and I.
Thursday, January 20, 2011
Compassion's deficit
Now, I will not say with utter certainty - the way that one can say, "water is wet, sky is blue, and grass is green," - that I know the ins and outs of compassion. However, what God has done these past few weeks may be likened to the eye exam; an object is purposefully blurry for a time and the optometrist does a little twisting here and a little tweaking there...BOOM, the object in view becomes ever so clear.
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
If tears were my song
It started much like any trip home from Peoria had these last couple weeks; a bunch of chatter in the back seat from Jada who is constantly inquiring of me an explanation of something. However, as the radiation and chemo take their cumulative affect on Jada, we are noticing increased fatigue. She says to me after we drive about 2 blocks, "Dad, I am exhausted from this stuff, I am going to take a quick nap." That's it, she's out.
Sunday, January 16, 2011
Darkened Counsel
Job 38:2 "Who is this that darkens counsel by words without knowledge?"
Jess and I cannot and will not presume to fully know or explain God's grand scheme in all this. Its far too lofty for us to attain. Its beyond the scope of our finite logic. We resolve to not even step up to the plate, as it were, and take a swing. God's job is solely His, He's been doing it for years with great success - I am sure my suggestions ARE NOT some revelatory masterpiece that He's been fishing for since time began.
So, another day goes by and Jess and I take another deep breath and and try to see this from God's perspective. However, as any parent will likely tell you, when you put a few children in the same room and eavesdrop what you find may surprise you. Tonight, my parents (who are awesome by the way) came to lend a hand and just provide some encouragement. Jessica had brought Pierce upstairs and she handed him to my mom so she could get some things done (which is new for Jess - usually she's a soap opera and bon-bon girl).
Promptly after receiving him Oliver ran over and just did what Ollie does best - made a grunt of some kind, smiled and went back to playing basketball. Jada, however, said something that shall serve s the lesson for all of us tonight.
My mom asked if Jada wanted to hold Pierce and Jada immediately tells her, "grandma, you must be careful of his biblical cord (his umbilical cord is somewhat irritated right now)." My, father says, "Biblical cord?, what's that?" In plain, Jada only fashion, she says, "the Biblical cord is where he gets his life inside momma."
So, while we will not "darken the counsel of the almighty" by speaking of that which we know not - we may certainly stand on the promises found in the sweet pages of Scripture. The picture created in 1 Cor. 5:17 is that we are a new creation and Paul continues the metaphor later in Colossians by describing life "in Christ."
As our sweet Pierce was supplied life just a few short day ago by his "biblical cord" so Jess and I say to all - "Jesus is our breath of life - and His promises in the Bible our sure foundation."
(ps. notice my parents modeling this really strange idea Jesus had of disciplemaking, "relationships primarily through the modes of service and presence").
Saturday, January 15, 2011
welcome home - again -
There is no way that one wakes up ready to handle what I can only term, "the onslaught of a new life." This new life includes things you never wanted to see or experience. However difficult it is though, Jess and I are always realizing this one thing - It is God's nature to bless.
Friday, January 14, 2011
no little disturbance
Jada lies in her bed just 8 feet away from me - tossing and turning while at the same time gently moaning with abdominal pain; which I am told is a normal side effect for the chemo. There are few things more agonizing as a father than to watch your daughter do relatively well all day just to listen to her writhing in pain at night. It is, mind numbing and heart wrenching. Add to this that I met with a specialist today about wigs (for Jada's impending hair loss), gathered home health supplies for when we are discharged tomorrow, and learned that I have to personally administer 6 shots to Jada over the course of the next 6 days.
Jessica calls me after I learn of the shots (we had previously been told that Jada would not need to have any more "pokies,") and tells me she's having a hard morning but is sending Ollie over to see Jada and I. Ollie arrives and I go to grab him out of my aunt's van and I literally catch his vomit in my hands...an hour later he is home and has a fever of 102. Needless to say, when it rains it pours.
Now, if this were the end - it would be both sad and self-centered. However, I had a conversation on the phone tonight with someone who, after we were done and I had time to think about it, showed me a whole lot about God's process of refinement.
Everyone's hurting, right. I mean, look around you - there are divorces, children walking away from the Lord, job loss, broken family relationships and the list goes on. What Jess and I continue to discover in this journey is that God uses many things to get our attention - and until the cross-airs of my spiritual gaze are squared on Him I will continue to simply STARE down my issues and lament my existence. "Oh God, why me? Why did you have this lot fall on me? My life has been hard for too long."
Through it all my question is this: what is my intent in voicing MY LAMENT? A pat on the back and an anonymous donation (just an example - all monies will gladly be accepted) to help with the stress? The conversation tonight, and Acts 19:23 (above) have laid a heavy message on my heart that has been just working me over all evening - here's a peek...
Do we really believe we are part of THE WAY? I read all of chapter 19 in Acts and I challenge you to do the same. What you will find may challenge you. Because the believers lived their lives in communal harmony Demetrius (the silversmith) was legitimately scared that his trade was as good as gone. Have you ever considered the ramifications? The belief of the early church caused a CULTURE SHIFT. Entire trades were at risk of being uprooted in the town of Ephesus - and make no mistake - that kind of thing messes with the culture of a community.
If we suffer gloriously for Christ, and realize mortality matters if for nothing else but the immortality of God then maybe there would be "NO LITTLE DISTURBANCE IN THE PEORIA AREA CONCERNING THE WAY." The issue is not whether what I am going through is harder than what you have on your plate. For the constant throughout all human history is never the mode of human suffering. The CONSTANT is the GLORY OF CHRIST!
Ideally, folks would look at ALL of us and say, "he has a sick daughter, he just lost his job, she just got divorced, her car just broke down, he is buried in debt but THEY ALL have Jesus!!!
Thursday, January 13, 2011
. . . Mortality Matters . . .
"The state of being subject to death." There it is, the most concise definition of mortality that I could find on Dictionary.com. As I watched the first drips of chemotherapy going into Jada's IV today I caught view of the bag in the picture you see to the left. I swallowed hard and realized (yet again) we are not dealing with a flu or a seasonal but pesky cold. We are dealing with a very rare but also very deadly disease. "Alright, God has things under control," I say. Then I turn around just in time to see Dr. McGee. He is the one administering the radiation for Jada's treatment regimen.
He tells me that after the pathology findings Jada has gone from Stage 1 to Stage 2. This information you likely already know. What you may not know is that her chances for a cure decreased with that prognosis from 85% to somewhere in the 70s. Breathe deep Doug, pick up your phone, call your wife and let her know not to be alarmed. Just a few hours have passed since my lovely Jessica and Pierce (the newest addition to our family) visited Jada and already the joy of that has worn off with the sandblaster (forgive the weak metaphor) of unfortunate news, an all too common feeling these last few weeks.
However poor the news two things remain paramount in our thinking: one, Galatians 3:3 indicates that we have begun by the spirit and therefore cannot attain our goal by human effort. The Spirit of God has been with us in a near palpable way since day one - this means, quite simply, that Jessica and I CANNOT attain our goal by our own effort. "What's the goal?" you ask, simple - cling to Christ in faith and have others take note that we have been with Jesus.
If we had a God constrained by time as we are - we would not have a God who could comfort us, provide peace, PERFECT wisdom, or even atone for our sins. Its not as though I invite the news which cements Jada's (or for that matter my own) mortality. All I know is that it is YET ANOTHER stream of mercy by which God's character is made manifest to Jess and I.
Goodness has a name and it is "God!"
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Sometimes God answers with severity.
As you may or may not know (depending on how often you check the blog) Jess and I finally named baby x . . . Pierce Anakin Rumbold. From the birth yesterday Jada and I went for testing which initially revealed Clear Cell Sarcoma of the Kidney - stage 1. I have been praying (along with Jess) about whether to forgo the radiation portion of the treatment in favor of reducing the overall toxicity to Jada's body and minimizing the impact on her ability to reproduce in the future. Some weighty issues to be sure up for consideration for a person of any age, but especially for a 5 yr old.
That being said, I began to contemplate God's timing and what He is trying to tell Jess and I. Just then another Dr. walked in...and honestly I don't remember his name (we have meet LOTS of people recently), but he asked if I had any questions. When I told him the gist of Jess and my thoughts on radiation he opened up a bit about how he has been praying for Jess, Jada, and I ever since this whole ordeal began. We prayed together and specifically we aimed at wisdom in handling the radiation. It was a sweet time of Christian fellowship in the truest sense (our bond truly was/is Christ).
Only 30 minutes later our oncologist shows up and says, "I have the full pathology in hand (up to this point he had initial results and not the printed full copy). The findings change two things," he said. "One, we can no longer say that Jada has stage one cancer. Because the tumor has punctured the renal cavity it has to be considered stage two." I was taken back, not sure how to process or what to feel - but that sensation is not new to us. Dr. Al continued, "this means that we no longer can drop the radiation as a variation in treatment - it IS the standard of treatment to administer the radiation." Ummm, ok, I see.
I returned to the room smiling at the grace of the Lord Jesus. Not 40 minutes previous I had prayed for wisdom that was not mine to help us make the decision. God openly reveals to us that our daughter's condition is slightly more serious and will require the radiation. Done. The decision is made thanks to God.
In the book of Job we discover that Job's friends really are not all that helpful. They had a faulty belief in what we would call the "retribution principle." The meaning is simply that they thought good get good from God, and bad get bad from God. Job must have done something wrong. So its to that end that all of their statements and intellect aim. Elihu, the youngest of Job's friends actually has a decent nugget to contribute to the discussion and its been on my heart all day and now that I am actually putting some stuff in writing, I see why.
In Job 32:7-8 it says," 7I said, 'Let days speak,and many years teach wisdom.'8But it is the spirit in man, the breath of the Almighty, that makes him understand." Elihu is making the case that experienced and learned men should speak first - then let the younger go next. I have been seeking the opinions of the medical community without truly consulting God. Once I dropped this faulty logic and picked up the "breath of the Almighty" God gave understanding sooner than expected. Now, the problem in this case is that the answer is not a nice piece of triple layer chocolate cake with a glass of milk to wash it down - its severe. Does His severity nullify His love and paternal care? Not at all. The Lord disciplines those He loves... He MUST love Jess and I (and Jada, Ollie, and Pierce) an awful lot.
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
And you shall call his name...
To be sure this little stretch of our lives has been hard but not void of blessing or grace. This morning was most poignant. We had prayed that the baby would come quickly when he came. The Lord saw fit to start labor at 4:30 am and have a child born to us by 6:23.
There are many things, to be sure, that I could share and desire to do so. But here is not the forum for that information. All anyone need know is that the birth was FAST, as painless as birth can be, and Jessica is doing VERY well.
He was 8lb 12oz. and 20.25inches long.
The irony here is that we were at home to deliver and I left less than 2 hours later to take Jada to St. Jude's for testing. Jada got to see her nameless baby brother and hold him before being readmitted once again (see yesterday's post: "Home was nice...But Jesus is Calling).
God's goodness continues to flow in two primary ways: one, Jada had a bone scan and brain MRI to check for bone cancer and brain cancer and both tests came back negative (AMAZING!). They have officially diagnosed Jada with a VERY RARE form of cancer called, "clear cell sarcoma of the kidney."
Today I held a baby, held the hand of my daughter through MRIs and CT scan's, and radiation simulations. After that I had the chance to meet with Dr. Al (our lead oncologist) - who delivered the results and walked me through all the side effects of treatment. Staggering!!! Jess and I will make final decisions on treatment tomorrow with chemotherapy and radiation likely to start Thursday. This means that while I love my little guy and my wife - I must be at the hospital with our firstborn during these VERY difficult days ahead. I am sleeping on a couch tonight listening to her breath and there is not a sweeter noise in all the earth.
So, if you are keeping track, that would effectively be both ends of the spectrum that Jess and I had the chance to walk through as a couple. God is good to give us this experience so we can comfort others and exalt the name of Christ.
Monday, January 10, 2011
Home was nice, but Christ is calling
We jetted out of the house to the St. Jude clinic today to get Jada's central line (chemo thing on her chest) cleaned and dressed. When we got there Dr. Al (our oncologist) brought in some paperwork with a foreboding look. He admitted that what he thought was a wilm's tumor (the most common form of kidney cancer in children with 400-500 cases a year) was in fact CLEAR CELL SARCOMA (very rare cancer with only 20 cases a year)! Jess and I just held hands and cried. There really are no words at that point. Just deep, deep pain.
So, back to the hospital we go tomorrow. Jada will have a bone scan and a brain MRI to determine whether the cancer has spread to her brain or bones. The frustrating thing is that at this point one of the tests means that Jess will cannot be near Jada for 24 hours (there is a radioactive dye that she has to be injected with before the scan).
The "events" kept coming. We are confronted with: admitting to the hospital, two scans, results on Wednesday, and Thursday is the day chemotherapy will begin. I like uneventful days - because they are predictable. Eventful is nice, if your are into that "extreme faith in God" sort of thing. Which, because of Jesus, Jess and I are. I will not lie - right now is a deeply disturbing time. Questions are flying and sadness runs high. But, that does not mean we cannot rejoice in this suffering or see the Smile of God in it.
At the end of the day this is what we know, our citizenship is in heaven. And we EAGERLY await a savior from there. But in this present life we have been promised trial, difficulty and suffering. Shall we bear up under it in the NAME OF JESUS? You bet we will. Right now we are shaking our firsts at God: frustrated, hurting, and ultimately just confused. But, here is the nugget that has been just disciplining me all day... God is our strength, Jesus our advocate, and the Spirit our ever-present intercessor. This is true in theory (aka when life is "all good") and it is also true when it stinks to live it (aka when everything is difficult, even the next breath).
Saturday, January 8, 2011
Blessed be the LORD
Blessed be the LORD... this is the way the Psalmist begins the 21st verse of the 31st Psalm. Not unlike many other Psalms where the writer is extolling some great virtue of the LORD by exclaiming that HE is to be praised, but its what follows that makes all the difference for Jessica and I.
On December 30th our daughter was told she has kidney cancer in the form of a wilm's tumor. While the pathology (the testing to determine the correct diagnosis) is still being done on Jada's football sized tumor she has been released from the hospital and is sound asleep about 12 feet from me right now in her own bed.
The rest of verse 21 says, "for he has wondrously shown his steadfast love to me when I was in a besieged city." Thursday the 30th of December certainly felt like Jess and I were in a "besieged" city with no escape. The choke hold of death was around our hearts and it was squeezing tears out of our now weary eyes. However, in just a few days we have seen marvelous improvement in our daughter and it has been the cause for MUCH rejoicing.
In fact, the day after her surgery she whispered to me that she missed church and wanted to go back soon. I put that little thought in my "wouldn't that be nice but fat chance" pocket. But the Lord saw fit to humble me once again. Amazing!
Above you will see pictures of the last 24hours with her. My brothers offered to spend the night in the hospital so Jess and I might get some sleep debt repaid before baby #3 arrives. Then Jada makes silly faces with her mom and Jess. Finally, you see Jess and I dressed and ready to leave the hospital.
In short, there has been the blessing and grace of the Lord all over this. Tonight Jess and I lay in bed with Jada and watched a movie while just cuddling (Oliver returns to us tomorrow in case you're wondering). She is walking proof of many things, but one thing in particular that I urge you to consider. Prayer IS the answer! I have never been so deep in prayer as I have been this past 8 days - and neither have many who have interceded on her behalf.
I had nights when I could not sleep and I would just stare out the window, talking (literally praying) to the Lord. Spilling my thoughts onto paper has become more intense (I have always been a journaler), and making my emotions subject to the Lordship of Christ is also normal. God has amazed us so much during this that I am content to look at something huge without fear, worry or anxiety - because those all involve myself managing the situation. Not sure if you have ever tried the, "I'll be God today" thing...but I can tell you from experience you will get to the end of this sentence faster than you will actually have peace of mind and a comforted spirit.
Christ RULES and Blessed be the LORD because of it. He never ceased to rule just because life got hard for me. His ruling was just manifest in my tiny little mind.
Friday, January 7, 2011
buckle up
Trenton is a child down the hall who is 8yrs old. We have come to know him as he and Jada will cart their I.V. units behind them down the halls gaining strength (not so much speed) each day. Trenton has a failing liver and just two days ago was rushed into emergency surgery for an exploded gal bladder. Each night his mother and father take shifts staying in the hospital as they have two other children, one of them is Trenton's twin. They are going on 4 weeks and little improvement has happened.
Thursday, January 6, 2011
Home...closer than you think
The night could not even be remotely synonymous with the term rest, but that is just fine with us. I awoke at the hospital (now day 7) after having slept a total of about 2 or so hours. The Dr. had a constant fluid drip going for Jada to test her only remaining kidney - I am exhausted but can exclaim with confidence that it works well.
When you cannot go home, there are a few things that the LORD provides that let one understand that Home can easily come to them. It has been my habit now for a little while to simply wait until Jada falls asleep, post some pictures on facebook, journal, pray and read. Last night was no exception.
My door had a knock and what I found outside reduced me (and later Jessica) to tears. Graciously, my brother Ed and his daughter Jaylin had flown home from Slovakia. Jada woke at just the right time and upon seeing her cousin (whom she has not seen for a year) she blinked hard twice and a faint smile followed. AMAZING! God cannot put more of a personal touch on his blessing and goodness to us, right?
This morning we awoke to some good news (rather Jada awoke to some good news). "You can have some jello." After having surgery she has basically fasted since Sunday at midnight. She ate like I have seldom seen and my heart leapt with joy.
The day drug on and though Jada would get out of her bed for long stints and go for walks, she complains of significant abdominal pain and cries with each step - it seems healing (both physical and spiritual) is not without its pain.
However strong morphine was, the love of God and the bond of family is stronger. For tonight as the evening drew to a close my sister Jen (the one with a million children who lives in Colorado and is married to fireman Jon) walks in with a couple of her children (Kierra and Jedidiah). Again, I stand in awe of how God has stamped his personal touch on all of these blessings and our hearts continue to be encouraged despite the difficulty of this affliction - and what will likely be a treacherous road ahead.
Romans 6:13 says, "13Do not present your members to sin as instruments for unrighteousness, but present yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life, and your members to God as instruments for righteousness." I encourage you to look at that part, "...have been brought from death to life..." When someone ransoms their life for yours you would do ANYTHING for them. The ransom Christ paid for us demands UTTER generosity and humility on our parts, to do less is to tread light and arrogantly on the gift of God.
The offering of ourselves, especially our presence relationally, reflects our heart for the master. In short, Jess and I have some really godly family ALL AROUND us.
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
New Jammies and a Power Walk
Here's one: slowly the staff are getting Jada to be sitting up. That was yesterday. Then this morning at 4:45 they began the task of prepping her for her epidural to be taken out (thus getting rid of numbness and severe pain control). They extracted the epidural and the catheter at the same time. Jada immediately said she had to go to the restroom.
The nurses came, put a bedpan at the end of the bed and scooted Jada to the edge - pointing to the bedpan, they said, "ready to go potty?" Jada took one look at it and said, "I'm not going in that! I want the big potty!" AMAZING - and really how Good has God been during this time?
That said, Jada finished her trip by returning to her bed, walking gingerly and complaining of stomach pain. The nurse told her we were going to continue walking out of the room to the nurse's station. Jada flatly refused, even with tears, and stated emphatically, "my outfit is ugly" (she was in yellow hospital scrubs). The nurse asked if she had new Jammies if she'd take a walk. Jada agreed.
Two hours later, Jammies arrived (thank you Rachel Rumbold and Sonya Hillrich). Jada promptly emptied her bladder and walked to the nurse's station (pictured above). So, moral? Buy Jada Jammies and she'll walk with you. Or maybe its something a little deeper...
Psalm 34:4 says, "I sought the LORD, and he answered me and delivered me from all my fears."
Jada literally grabbed my hand and said, "Daddy, I am scared, my belly hurts and I cannot walk." I whispered in her ear, "Jada, Jesus is your strength (the constant refrain from all who whisper in to her sweet ear)." SHE WALKED! What faithfulness our creator has in his heart for those who seek him.
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
The blessing of Affliction
We approached the pre-operation room with a fair bit of trepidation, who doesn't? But we knew going into that it was going to be a difficult ordeal. "Ok," you say, "its gonna be hard." So, Jessica and I wheel our lovely 5 yr old back to the room and begin to tell her stories. A line of different Dr.s come to see her. You can see it in her eyes and witness her body language. The time is drawing near. Just moments before our daughter goes under the knife to have what later would be known as a "huge" tumor (10 inches x 6 inches) removed she motions for me to come near.
Her tiny little body is covered in blankies and all the comforts we can afford physically while her heart is held up in prayer. As I get right next to her lips - she whispers soft and gently, "Daddy, I don't want to cry." and then she begins to briefly shed a few tears.
Jess and I pray with her, assure her of the Lord's strength in her, and head off to the waiting room. In the next 4.5 hours we worshiped, prayed, cried, read the Word, and kissed doubt, fear and worry goodbye. God's peace enveloped us as we waited to meet with the surgeon.
"Everything went well" was the report - and now we wait for further results of testing (aka, the pathology of the tumor). But the neat part is what follows: Jada woke from surgery and motioned for me to come near again. This time what she whispered warmed my heart further, "I (pant pant pant), LOVE (pant pant), you." Those words made all the tears and all the prayer worth it. But that is not where God desires that it end.
This morning as I sat reading my Bible, and praying while Jada lay asleep and before the onslaught of support (aka - Christian community) came - I had a vision of hope for my daughter (and for that matter, my family).
In Acts 5 the apostles were called into the council and beaten and told not to speak the name of Jesus. I have a vision for my family that says essentially this, "thank you Jesus, that you have counted us worthy of suffering." For it is too easy in times like ours to raise both of hands in anger at God for what appears to be an injustice. But, if we are not careful, having both fists clenched toward the heavens teaches us a one-sided view of suffering and trial. That view, sadly, is all about me (or in this case, Jada). We are encouraged in the Bible to express our anger or frustration with God (clenched fist), but let us not forget to keep the other hand open to receive the blessing from the affliction.
If the Gospel was delivered with great pain to the Lord Jesus (difficult emotionally, and spiritually - not to mention physically) how am I (or Jess, Jada, and Oliver) to expect that God would deliver the truth and depth of the Gospel love he has for me without some level of affliction? The answer: we are not to expect anything less!
In Hebrews 2:10 it says that Christ was made perfect through suffering. You and I are made to resemble Christ MORE as we suffer. Its just not our chosen vehicle.